It’s bad enough when people say the dreaded ‘should’ word to me, talk about a red rag to a bull. But it’s even worse when I find myself ‘shoulding’ all over myself as it were - and unintentionally. I should do this, I should do that, I should do (so and so) because…and then I find myself justifying why I ‘should’ do something and its normally to placate someone else!
How many times have I written and talked about ‘shoulding’ someone else? Damnit, talk about physician heal thyself. I advise enough people that the word should doesn’t give them or anyone else a choice (which leaves us feeling angry and powerless) and here I am doing it to myself! Grrrrr
(Time to have a conversation with myself) Let me paint an imaginary image….I’m laying on a couch and I’m also sitting behind on a chair taking notes on what I’m about to say. Pen poised over notepad, ready to analyse myself down to the core....."Ok Claire, now take a couple of deep breaths". Inhales, exhales, inhales, exhales. "Now, what is making you so angry?"
Ummm, the fact that I should know better : )